NEW HABITS November 7, 2014

.1. Pray and meditate each morning before 7.

Return to bible study and prayer each time I neglect it.

2.  Watch two morning dramas, write down words I do not know.

3. Medicine and eye drops.

4. Get to LOGOS or... half an hour before class to get ready and pray for students

5. Plan a time to talk to Sandy that day.

6. Ask Sandy how I can help her.

7. Clean up after each class.

8. Take a step in organizing, streamlining paper flow, email, and books and clutter.

9. Write something worthwhile: letter, blog, journal, book chapter, postcard.

I love BY THE BOOK Japan, and other stories

I love by the book Japan. I came to by the book Japan in the first place so I could get a job, learn Japanese, and bring the light of Jesus to a dark culture.

Can I say  here that American culture is dark, too...

I lived in BTB Japan for six years while our children were young. There are MANY good things about living in Japan. It's very predictable. People try to do what they think you want. Sukiyaki, Te-maki zushi, tempura, Sashimi, Kimchi, Kojima, and cow tongue, Etc...

 

I came back to BTB Japan in 2001 because we loved it, and wanted to do more mission work here.

I love by the book Japan.

I choose to continue to live here because Kojima is in BTB Japan. But today chaos,  

almost broke out twice in BTB Japan. Firstly, I  SAT IN RESERVED ON THE EXPRESS TRAIN. Let me explain why. The express train leaves ahead of the slow train.  There are always seats on the express train. The seats have little folding trays like on an airliner, so you can do actual work. It takes marginally less time to get from Kojima to Okayama, the next and final stop. AND, actually more crucial for me, it was the first train leaving after I arrived at the platform.  The problem was not the money.  Yes  it is more than double, but I have conquered the little sneaky devil in me and I  immediately get out my  ticket and money and place it in plain  view and prepare my mind to pay. Somewhat grudgingly because it is not twice as wonderful as the slow train. It would have to be a cute lady conductor who took my money, printed out my receipt with her little FedEx machine, and with  great humility and apologeticalism, informs me that it is her duty to humbly inform me that, due to no fault of my own, but due to JR's  placing of the reserved section where I happened to sit, I have unfortunately ended up in the reserved section.  OH MY, not the RESERVED SECTION!!! Hello, there are empty seats everywhere and NO MORE STOPS.  This is not like I am in first class and am going to get free champagne without paying for first class!!!  We are almost halfway there now  and I have all this important high-level work to do. But, I, remembering how much I love BTB Japan, do not protest. I do not impinge on her WA,  or harmony. I simply put away my stuff, fold up my tray table, and  haul a few meters to the non-reserved car. I smile.  I am happy.

I proceed to the eye doctor, who by the way is excellent. I  wait longer than usual, but get my perspective restored seeing so many people so much worse off and the dedication of care-givers pouring their lives into cherishing their loved ones. The surgeon says the right eye will also be difficult, but no more so than the left.

I  head to the admitting reception are to ask a question I pretty much know the answer to.

Are you being admitted?

Not today, but I have a question.  

Yes?  

Well,  I was admitted back in May and I filled out all these papers.  I will be admitted in October for the same procedure and I  wanted to ask if maybe you have the data stored in your computers and if I really need to fill it ALL  out again???

EVERYBODY fills out  ALL the paperwork  EVERY time.  

I see, but I  thought that since it is so recent and the exact same surgery by the same doctor... 

EVERYBODY fills out  ALL the paperwork  EVERY time. 

I see, but it is eye surgery and my eyes  are really bad and it is a lot of writing for a foreigner, and....  

I know it is  inexcusable, but ... EVERYBODY fills out  ALL the paperwork  EVERY time. 

I regret that I troubled  you by asking this selfish thing.

CHAOS AVERTED!!! So I head to Starbucks, where the coffee is awful, but the muffins, the cookies, the cinnamon rolls...AND at this Starbucks, the sugar thing is not caked up making extraction of sugar impossible like it is at the Starbucks near the station.  The little things.

Starbucks would have to be 550 Yen, exactly the same as the upgrade to NON-RESERVED EXPRESS.  

Then I go to the fancy machine to pay my hospital bill and it is 200 Yen!!!!  Two dollars for a pressure check, a very cursory vision check, and a quick consultation with the surgeon.

As I ride home on the slow train, I ponder my life in Japan and I rejoice.

At home, Sandy tells me she looked more carefully at my California  hospital bill and sees that the room charge for ONE NIGHT is more than 10,000 dollars.  it was kidney ICU, so ...

And then finally, just because it happened the same day, I get a bill from more than a year ago, I guess, form the hospital that almost killed me trying to get a bunch of stones  out of my left kidney.  For 530 Yen. or about 5 dollars and 30 cents.  I smile.

Dumb Doctor 1, Gold Medal

Doctors have saved my life, and I appreciate that.

A couple of doctors have found my weird body motivating
and have worked extra hard to find out what was wrong.

I will tell you about them when you are older.

But I have also had some really incompetent,
lazy, un-curious doctors. I do not believe they ever actually set a
goal to kill me, but they almost accomplished it.

The Golden Bedpan goes to a young man whose name shall remain
a secret in these digits.  He was an intern in 1984 at UC San Francisco.
I  had returned from India after months of loose motions brother and  no
adequate cause had been found, so they were going to just treat me and
get me out of there if they could.

TPN was rather new in those days and that was what I was going to get.
It means nutrition without using your ruined gut.  We give you all you need
in a bag, already digested.  YUM!

Because the syrup is a bit thick for your arm veins, they need to  put a pipe
into the BIG blood vessels near the heart. Large volumes of blood flowing rapidly
to dilute the solution and nourish your cells. The route to the big blood vessels lies
somewhere around the shoulder blade, collarbone area.

So, one day two very young doctors in training approached my bed on 11 Moffitt Hospital
and proceed to thread  a catheter from outside my body to a location near my heart.
I feel pain and hear repeated cries of 'still hitting clavicle' over and over.  I am thinking this is not good.

Then 4th year says to intern,

WE SHOULD HAVE USED STERILE PROCEDURE!

I am not making  this up.  Yes it was 30 years ago, but EVEN THEY knew better at the time.

They continue, kind of sweating, not having fun at all.

Then again,


WE SHOULD HAVE USED STERILE PROCEDURE!

I still am not making this up. Oh how many times I have wished I had called
for their supervisor at that point.

When they said it the third time, I did yell!

STOP SAYING THAT!
YES YOU SHOULD HAVE , but stop saying it!

If ever I wanted to sue someone, it was then.

By God's grace, I did not die from their incompetence.

Most people who go on TPN for very long do die from infection after a while.

They sent me home on it, at 400 dollars a bag each day. They lent me a fridge to keep the bags, they trained me on procedures for hooking up and changing bags, etc.  I had to scrub and mask like a surgeon and things went smoothly.  After about three months, my gut woke up and I
began to go off the iv syrup. Thank you Aunt Colette!!!

LIVING THE DREAM, orig a FB note

LIVING THE DREAM

August 18, 2014 at 11:21am

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IN FIFTH GRADE, circa 1970, Mrs. Theda Miller asked usal what we wanted to be when we grew up.

I KNEW THE ANSWER!!
A preacher or a missionary,

I knew the answer.  I had known for a while.

It came straight from Matthew 28.

Go Ye into all the world.

I thought I better go, but I also wanted to go.

I wanted to go to Africa, where little hungry kids would be so grateful for a bowl of anything.

I wanted to go to China, where Dr. George S. Benson had been before his
illustrious career in education.


And for years, on the back wall at Rogers Chapel, there was a huge poster of black and white pictures with the
headline, WHAT IS SUN KYI DOING IN CHINA?

And I wanted to go to the Philippines, where the first foreigner I had ever met, Conrado, a preacher boy for Crowley's Ridge College, was from.

My mother's side of the family considered mission work to be the
best thing anyone could ever choose to do.

Although my uncle, J.C. Reed, was a missionary to Guatemala for over 40 years, I think I only met him once, probably for a funeral.

My great-uncle, Miller Forcade, was an eccentric gentleman, who had done mission work in several
countries, including Japan. I will never forget his prayers before bedtime at DeRidder.  His prayers were like a course in
geography and missions.  He was very specific.
I hope there are still prayers like that.
 I recently was invited to a 50th anniversary celebration for a church he
had started up north in 1964.

And of course, my great-grandfather, Ben J Elston, baptized George S. Benson in Oklahoma or Kansas long ago.

Anyway, in 6th grade, I did put up with a bit of derision as the popular boys would snort, PREACHER!, or MISSIONARY! at me
in the halls or boys' room or playground. But this made me smug and righteous-feeling inside.

Nothing much happened between 6th grade and Sandy in this story.

Nothing, that is, except CRA, John Clayton, and Larry Brinkley.

Crowley's Ridge Academy was definitely a mixed bag. Horrible teachers and good teachers.
Cruel classmates and wonderful Christian classmates. Some in-between.  I read and studied the Bible
a lot and I can still see AJ Hendrix putting his charts up on the board.

John Clayton, of Does God Exist ministries, was a brilliant apologist, and superb speaker.
We heard him at Pocahontas, Piggott, Jonesboro, and many other places too numerous to
mention.  I learned so much from him that I can never thank him enough.  He is 80-something now and still going strong.

Larry Brinkley brought joyful, smart Christianity into our tiny world of
Rogers' Chapel and BE BAPTIZED TODAY sermons week after week.  Larry held
our meeting, as they used to say, for a few years.  That meant he preached every night
for a week or so in the summer and we invited neighbors and local churches to join us.
I still get goosebumps remembering the year when three of the community's most
supposedly unreachable elderly sinners were saved! Larry would come eat watermelon
with our family, even though we could not invite him inside, and he introduced my mom
to the William Barclay commentaries.  He was a superstar to us.  He must have put thousands of hours
into planning and carrying out youth rallies and SO MANY OTHER MINISTRIES. Later he would also teach
some at CRA. Also going strong still.

I grew up thinking the sixth step of salvation was After high school, Harding!
Even though my two elder siblings strayed from this path,
I went straight to Harding the summer after high school. After high school and a little surgery, that is.

Even though I got two stinking B's in summer school, it was a good plan.  Before the
thousands arrived, a few hundred of us had the place to ourselves. So I got to know
my way around and make friends I could never find again.

HARDING, OH HARDING!  How many blessings!
Great Bible teachers and Jim Woodroof and Sandy, to name the tope three.
Of course, friend to last a lifetime.

I met Sandy in chapel my second semester.  She was already friends with my sister Beth
so that was a point in my favor. Poor guy named Tim something sat between us and never figured out
he should switch with one of us. We had a lot of important things in common and could talk easily.  We both
wanted to be missionaries and she had a class under Gary Walker, visiting missionary who was
recruiting people to go to India.  As we became more serious, we were also both making commitments
to go to India with Gary.

I must mention Campaigns Northeast and Owen Olbricht here as important influences.  On campaigns
I saw that I could read the Bible to people and that God could change
eternity for them.  I also loved the people I got to work with.  I
experienced the difficulty of remaining motivated when results seemed
to come very slow, as well.

After graduating and marrying and studying in Lubbock and raising money, etc, we left for
Inda on MARCH FORTH, 1981.

India was wonderful and terrible by turns.  We had small victories, big shocks, abundant blessings,
good co-workers, and made friends to last another lifetime, thanks to the Internet and FB.

On the heels of our commitment to stay longer, move to Mysore and start a brand new church,
and an intensive language course, my health took a sharp turn in a bad direction. I spent 3 months in
the hospital at UCSF and Sandy had to bring our two little kids home by herself. The particular dream known
as INDIA had to be put aside.

7 YEARS IN CALIFORNIA
I did many part-time jobs, teaching English,
subbing, preaching, modeling, etc
I got my MA in TESOL from SFSU.
Took me 5 years part-time and many trips over and under the Bay Bridge.
We learned a lot about ourselves, our kids grew.

If we cannot go to India, we will look for a cleaner country
where we can support ourselves! Japan has a lot of good jobs
teaching English!!

Soooo....on a credit card I went to JALT in Omiya in 1990. Is this what
they call a Hail Mary?  I would interview with several companies and
choose the best of the many offers I would get.  Not quite.
The interviews were very sparse.  And they looked askance at me thinking of
bringing two small kids over.

For old times sake, and to respect my father, I went to visit Joe
Betts, pioneer and grandfather of mission work in Japan, who had
known both mine and Sandy's parents at Harding.  As we toured the  facilities of
Iberaki Christian College, he lent me a copy of the Japan Times, where
I found an ad for teachers for the newly opened Mount Hood Community College
Kurashiki  in the lovely little town of Kojima.

Well, I applied for a job there, and the rest is FANTANSY, GRACE, FABULOUSITY,
ETC...

God has let us support ourselves,
teach the Gospel,
make friends,
make a home.
in short,
God has let us
LIVE THE DREAM!

Marriage tips for guys, reprint, not my oroginal.

These are from :

http://www.viralnova.com/20-marriage-tips/

Below are 20 wise marriage tips from a man that was recently divorced. You wouldn't normally think that a divorced man would give good advice on being a husband, but this man has been through enough hardship to know what is worth fighting for:

MARRIAGE ADVICE I WISH I WOULD HAVE HAD:

Obviously, I’m not a relationship expert. But there’s something about my divorce being finalized this week that gives me perspective of things I wish I would have done different… After losing a woman that I loved, and a marriage of almost 16 years, here’s the advice I wish I would have had...

1) Never stop courting. Never stop dating. NEVER EVER take that woman for granted. When you asked her to marry you, you promised to be that man that would OWN HER HEART and to fiercely protect it. This is the most important and sacred treasure you will ever be entrusted with. SHE CHOSE YOU. Never forget that, and NEVER GET LAZY in your love.

2) PROTECT YOUR OWN HEART. Just as you committed to being the protector of her heart, you must guard your own with the same vigilance. Love yourself fully, love the world openly, but there is a special place in your heart where no one must enter except for your wife. Keep that space always ready to receive her and invite her in, and refuse to let anyone or anything else enter there.

3) FALL IN LOVE OVER and OVER and OVER again. You will constantly change. You’re not the same people you were when you got married, and in five years you will not be the same person you are today. Change will come, and in that you have to re-choose each other everyday. SHE DOESN’T HAVE TO STAY WITH YOU, and if you don’t take care of her heart, she may give that heart to someone else or seal you out completely, and you may never be able to get it back. Always fight to win her love just as you did when you were courting her.

4) ALWAYS SEE THE BEST in her. Focus only on what you love. What you focus on will expand. If you focus on what bugs you, all you will see is reasons to be bugged. If you focus on what you love, you can’t help but be consumed by love. Focus to the point where you can no longer see anything but love, and you know without a doubt that you are the luckiest man on earth to be have this woman as your wife.

5) IT’S NOT YOUR JOB TO CHANGE OR FIX HER… your job is to love her as she is with no expectation of her ever changing. And if she changes, love what she becomes, whether it’s what you wanted or not.

6) TAKE FULL ACCOUNTABILITY for your own emotions: It’s not your wife’s job to make you happy, and she CAN’T make you sad. You are responsible for finding your own happiness, and through that your joy will spill over into your relationship and your love.

7) NEVER BLAME your wife If YOU get frustrated or angry at her, it is only because it is triggering something inside of YOU. They are YOUR emotions, and your responsibility. When you feel those feelings take time to get present and to look within and understand what it is inside of YOU that is asking to be healed. You were attracted to this woman because she was the person best suited to trigger all of your childhood wounds in the most painful way so that you could heal them… when you heal yourself, you will no longer be triggered by her, and you will wonder why you ever were.

Allow your woman to JUST BE. When she’s sad or upset, it’s not your job to fix it, it’s your job to HOLD HER and let her know it’s ok. Let her know that you hear her, and that she’s important and that you are that pillar on which she can always lean. The feminine spirit is about change and emotion and like a storm her emotions will roll in and out, and as you remain strong and unjudging she will trust you and open her soul to you… DON’T RUN-AWAY WHEN SHE’S UPSET. Stand present and strong and let her know you aren’t going anywhere. Listen to what she is really saying behind the words and emotion.

9) BE SILLY… don’t take yourself so damn seriously. Laugh. And make her laugh. Laughter makes everything else easier.

10) FILL HER SOUL EVERYDAY… learn her love languages and the specific ways that she feels important and validated and CHERISHED. Ask her to create a list of 10 THINGS that make her feel loved and memorize those things and make it a priority everyday to make her feel like a queen.

11) BE PRESENT. Give her not only your time, but your focus, your attention and your soul. Do whatever it takes to clear your head so that when you are with her you are fully WITH HER. Treat her as you would your most valuable client. She is.

12) BE WILLING TO TAKE HER SEXUALLY, to carry her away in the power of your masculine presence, to consume her and devour her with your strength, and to penetrate her to the deepest levels of her soul. Let her melt into her feminine softness as she knows she can trust you fully.

13) DON’T BE AN IDIOT…. And don’t be afraid of being one either. You will make mistakes and so will she. Try not to make too big of mistakes, and learn from the ones you do make. You’re not supposed to be perfect, just try to not be too stupid.

14) GIVE HER SPACE… The woman is so good at giving and giving, and sometimes she will need to be reminded to take time to nurture herself. Sometimes she will need to fly from your branches to go and find what feeds her soul, and if you give her that space she will come back with new songs to sing…. (okay, getting a little too poetic here, but you get the point. Tell her to take time for herself, ESPECIALLY after you have kids. She needs that space to renew and get re-centered, and to find herself after she gets lost in serving you, the kids and the world.)

15) BE VULNERABLE… you don’t have to have it all together. Be willing to share your fears and feelings, and quick to acknowledge your mistakes.

16) BE FULLY TRANSPARENT. If you want to have trust you must be willing to share EVERYTHING… Especially those things you don’t want to share. It takes courage to fully love, to fully open your heart and let her in when you don't know i she will like what she finds... Part of that courage is allowing her to love you completely, your darkness as well as your light. DROP THE MASK… If you feel like you need to wear a mask around her, and show up perfect all the time, you will never experience the full dimension of what love can be.

17) NEVER STOP GROWING TOGETHER… The stagnant pond breeds malaria, the flowing stream is always fresh and cool. Atrophy is the natural process when you stop working a muscle, just as it is if you stop working on your relationship. Find common goals, dreams and visions to work towards.

18) DON’T WORRY ABOUT MONEY. Money is a game, find ways to work together as a team to win it. It never helps when teammates fight. Figure out ways to leverage both persons strength to win.

19) FORGIVE IMMEDIATELY and focus on the future rather than carrying weight from the past. Don’t let your history hold you hostage. Holding onto past mistakes that either you or she makes, is like a heavy anchor to your marriage and will hold you back. FORGIVENESS IS FREEDOM. Cut the anchor loose and always choose love.

20) ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE. ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE. ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE. In the end, this is the only advice you need. If this is the guiding principle through which all your choices is governed, there is nothing that will threaten the happiness of your marriage. Love will always endure.

In the end MARRIAGE isn’t about Happily ever after. It’s about work. And a commitment to grow together and a willingness to continually invest in creating something that can endure eternity. Through that work, the happiness will come.

Marriage is life, and it will bring ups and downs. Embracing all of the cycles and learning to learn from and love each experience will bring the strength and perspective to keep building, one brick at a time.

These are lessons I learned the hard way. These are lessons I learned too late.

But these are lessons I am learning and committed in carrying forward. Truth is, I LOVED being married, and in time, I will get married again, and when I do, I will build it with a foundation that will endure any storm and any amount of time.

If you are reading this and find wisdom in my pain, share it those those young husbands whose hearts are still full of hope, and with those couples you may know who may have forgotten how to love. One of those men may be like I was, and in these hard earned lessons perhaps something will awaken in him and he will learn to be the man his lady has been waiting for.

The woman that told him 'I do', and trusted her life with him, has been waiting for this man to step up.

If you are reading this and your marriage isn’t what you want it to be, take 100% responsibility for YOUR PART in marriage, regardless of where your spouse is at, and commit to applying these lessons while there is time.

MEN- THIS IS YOUR CHARGE : Commit to being an EPIC LOVER. There is no greater challenge, and no greater prize. Your woman deserves that from you.

Be the type of husband your wife can’t help but brag about.

Prayer for family in crisis

愛する天のお父さん、 

あなたの深い愛をありがとうございます。 

海のように、あなたの深い愛をもって私たちを取り巻くください。 

あなたの素晴らしい力をありがとうございます。 

あなたはなんでもできます！ 

この暗い世界のすべての悩みから

守ってください。 

私たちの心のなかのすべての悩みから守ってください。 

このいえに近づいてください。 

私たちは心を尽くしてあなたを求めるように助けてください。

愛する天のお父さんが私たちのために作られたすばらしい計画どうりに導いて下さい。

あなたの光、愛、喜びを受けいれるように私たちの心を開いてください。 

イエスのなまえによってお祈りします。 

アーメン

Some designs of Satan

These are from this sermon.
Used without permission.

http://www.desiringgod.org/sermons/resist-the-devil

1.Satan lies, and is the father of lies.

John 8:44, 

2. Satan blinds the minds of unbelievers.

2 Corinthians 4:4, 

3. Satan masquerades in costumes of light and righteousness.

2 Corinthians 11:13-15  1 Timothy 4:1 Matt. 7:15 Acts 20:30

4. Satan does signs and wonders.

2 Thessalonians 2:9

 Matthew 24:24  Matthew 7:22).

5. Satan tempts people to sin.

Matthew 4:1-11,  Luke 22:3-6, 2 Corinthians 11:3

 

 even from "...sincere and pure devotion to Christ."

6. Satan fights the word and the development of faith.

 Mark 4:1-9. Romans 10:17, 1 Thess 3:5

 

7 Satan causes some sickness and disease.

Luke 13:16 

Acts 10:38

8. Satan is a bloodthirsty murderer.

John 8:44. 1 John 3:12, 

9. Satan fights against the plans of missionaries.

1 Thessalonians 2:17-­18, 

10. Satan accuses Christians before God.

Revelation 12:10  Think about the cases of Job, Judas, and Peter.

We are to pray against all these designs of Satan.

Trimmed

5　白衣　牧師　夕刊　迫る　狂乱　加速　爆発　寸前　倒れる　勢い　一心不乱壁　無情　刻む

• 白衣 【はくい】 (n) white robe; 
• 牧師 【ぼくし】 pastor; minister; clergyman; reverend; 
• 夕刊 【ゆうかん】evening paper; 
• 迫る : 迫る(P); 逼る 【せまる】 (1) to approach; to be imminent;  (2) press, urge;  
• 狂乱 【きょうらん】 fury; frenzy; madness; 
• 加速 【かそく】  acceleration; speeding up;
• 爆発 【ばくはつ】  explosion; 
• 寸前 【すんぜん】 on the verge;
• 倒れる【たおれる】 o fall; to collapse;
• 勢い : 【いきおい】(1) force; vigor; course 
• 一心不乱 【いっしんふらん】wholeheartedly; with heart and soul
• 壁 【かべ】 wall;
• 無情 【むじょう】 heartlessness; ruthless; 
• 刻む 【きざむ】 (1) to mince; to cut fine; to chop up; to hash; to shred; (2) to carve; to engrave; to chisel; to notch; (3) to tick away (time); to record the passing moments; ED

　刷り上がる　放り投げる出し抜く　副　引き裂く　突きつける哀れ　破る　6　裁判所

• 刷り上がる 【すりあがる】  to be off the press;
• 放り投げる【ほうりなげる】 to throw; to fling; to heave; to toss;
• 出し抜く 【だしぬく】  to forestall; to anticipate; to jump the gun on; to outwit; to circumvent; 
• 副 【とりわけ; ふく】especially; above all; (ふく) duplicate; copy; assistant; associate; vice-; 
• 引き裂く  【ひきさく】  to tear up; to tear off; to split; 
• 突きつける  【つきつける】 to thrust before; to thrust at;
• 哀れ 【あわれ】pity; sorrow; grief; misery; compassion; pathos;  (2) pitiable; pitiful; pathetic; miserable; 
• 破る  【やぶる】  to tear; to violate; to defeat; to smash; to destroy; to break 
• 裁判所 【さいばんしょ】  court; courthouse; 

　顛末　指示　仰ぐ　追跡　衝突　別状　市営　歪む　整理　駆け出し　放出7　無造作　郊外　鉄

• 顛末 【てんまつ】  circumstance; facts; details; 
• 指示 【しじ】  indication; instruction; designation; directions; 
• 仰ぐ 【あおぐ】  (1) to look up (at); (2) to look up (to); to respect; to revere; (3) to ask for; to seek; (4) to turn to someone; to depend on; (5) to gulp down; to quaff; to take (e.g. poison); 
• 追跡 【ついせき】 pursuit; tracking ; keeping records on; tracing; 
• 衝突 【しょうとつ】  collision; crash; running into; (2) conflict; quarrel; clashing;
• 別状 【べつじょう】 (n) (usu. in the negative: 別状なく, 別状がない, etc.) something unusual; something wrong; mishap; accident; serious condition (e.g. after an injury); different situation; 
• 市営 【しえい】 municipal management; 
• 歪む 【ゆがむ(P); いがむ; ひずむ】 (v5m,vi) to warp; to swerve; to deflect; to be crooked; to be distorted; to be bent; to incline; to slant; to be perverted; to be gross-grained; to get bent; to be strained; 
• 整理 【せいり】organization; adjustment; regulation; (2) liquidation; settlement; consolidation; clearance (e.g. debt); paying off; 
• 駆け出し  【かけだし】 (1) novice; beginner; (2) starting to run;
• 放出 【ほうしゅつ】  release; emission; ejection; 
• 無造作【むぞうさ】 (1) casual; off-hand; careless; easy-going; (2) artless; simple; 
• 郊外 【こうがい】 suburb; outskirts; 
• 鉄 : 金 【かね(P); かな(金)(ok)】(2) metal;  黒金; 鉄 【くろがね】 ; (n) iron; : 
• 鉄 【てつ】 iron 
•  鉄道) railway; 

　爆弾　手渡す　電信　撃たれる　仕掛ける　冗談　　関連局　非難　繰り広げられる　湧き上がる

宇宙？ p．5-9

5　白衣　牧師　夕刊　迫る　狂乱　加速　爆発　寸前　倒れる　勢い　一心不乱壁　無情　刻む

• 白衣 【はくい(P); びゃくい; びゃくえ】 (n) white robe; (doctor's) white gown; (P); ED
• 牧師 【ぼくし】 (n,adj-no) pastor; minister; clergyman; reverend; (P); ED
• 夕刊 【ゆうかん】 (n) evening paper; (P); ED
• 迫る : 迫る(P); 逼る 【せまる(P); せる(迫る)(ok)】 (v5r,vi) (1) to approach; to draw near; to be imminent; (v5r,vt) (2) to press (someone for something); to urge; to compel; (P); ED
• 狂乱 【きょうらん】 (n,vs,adj-no) fury; frenzy; madness; (P); ED
• 加速 【かそく】 (n,vs) (ant: 減速) acceleration; speeding up; (P); ED
• 爆発 【ばくはつ】 (n,vs) explosion; detonation; eruption; (P); ED
• 寸前 【すんぜん】 (n,suf) on the verge; on the brink; just in front of; just before; (P); ED
• 倒れる : 倒れる(P); 斃れる; 仆れる; 殪れる 【たおれる】 (v1,vi) (1) (倒れる only) (See 崩れる,倒す・たおす) to fall; to collapse; to drop; to fall senseless; (2) to be forced to bed (by illness, etc.); (3) to die; (4) to go bankrupt; to be ruined; to have a bad debt; (5) to be defeated (in a game); (6) to fall (of governments, dictators, etc.); (P); ED
• 勢い : 勢い(P); 勢(io) 【いきおい】 (adv,n) (1) force; vigor; vigour; energy; spirit; life; (2) influence; authority; power; might; (3) impetus; momentum; course (of events); (n-adv) (4) naturally; necessarily; (P); ED
• 一心不乱 【いっしんふらん】 (adj-na,n) wholeheartedly; with heart and soul; intently; with undivided attention; with intense concentration; single-mindedly; ED
• 壁 【かべ(P); へき】 (n) (1) wall; partition; (2) barrier; obstacle; (3) (へき only) {astron} (See 二十八宿,玄武・げんぶ・2) Chinese "Wall" constellation (one of the 28 mansions); (P); ED
• 無情 【むじょう】 (n,adj-no,adj-na) heartlessness; hardness; cruelty; ruthless; (P); ED
• 刻む 【きざむ】 (v5m,vt) (1) to mince; to cut fine; to chop up; to hash; to shred; (2) to carve; to engrave; to chisel; to notch; (3) to tick away (time); to record the passing moments; (4) (as 心に刻む, etc.) (See 心に刻む) to etch (into one's mind); to remember distinctly; (5) (arch) to have tattooed; (6) (arch) to torment; (P); ED

　刷り上がる　放り投げる出し抜く　副　引き裂く　突きつける哀れ　破る　6　裁判所

• 刷り上がる 【すりあがる】 (v5r) to be off the press; ED
• 放り投げる : 放り投げる; ほうり投げる 【ほうりなげる】 (v1,vt) to throw; to fling; to heave; to toss; ED
• 出し抜く 【だしぬく】 (v5k,vt) to forestall; to anticipate; to jump the gun on; to outwit; to circumvent; to steal a march on; ED
• 副 【とりわけ; ふく】 (とりわけ) (adv,n) (uk) especially; above all; (ふく) (n,pref) duplicate; copy; assistant; associate; vice-; sub-; deputy; substitute; auxiliary; supplementary; additional; collateral; SP
• 引き裂く : 引き裂く(P); 引裂く(io)(P); 引きさく 【ひきさく】 (v5k,vt) to tear up; to tear off; to split; (P); ED
• 突きつける : 突き付ける; 突きつける 【つきつける】 (v1,vt) to thrust before; to thrust at; ED
• 哀れ : 哀れ(P); 憐れ; 憫れ 【あわれ】 (n) (1) pity; sorrow; grief; misery; compassion; pathos; (adj-na) (2) pitiable; pitiful; pathetic; miserable; (int) (3) alack; alas; (P); ED
• 破る : 破る(P); 敗る 【やぶる】 (v5r,vt) to tear; to violate; to defeat; to smash; to destroy; to break (e.g. password); (P); ED
• 裁判所 【さいばんしょ】 (n) court; courthouse; (P); ED

　顛末　指示　仰ぐ　追跡　衝突　別状　市営　歪む　整理　駆け出し　放出7　無造作　郊外　鉄

• 顛末 : 顛末; 顚末 【てんまつ】 (n) circumstance; facts; details; ED
• 指示 【しじ】 (n,vs) indication; instruction; designation; directions; (P); ED
• 仰ぐ 【あおぐ】 (v5g,vt) (1) to look up (at); (2) to look up (to); to respect; to revere; (3) to ask for; to seek; (4) to turn to someone; to depend on; (5) to gulp down; to quaff; to take (e.g. poison); (P); ED
• 追跡 【ついせき】 (n,vs,adj-no) pursuit; tracking (e.g. in computer graphics); keeping records on; tracing; (P); ED
• 衝突 【しょうとつ】 (n,vs) (1) collision; crash; running into; (2) conflict; quarrel; clashing; (P); ED
• 別状 : 別状; 別条 【べつじょう】 (n) (usu. in the negative: 別状なく, 別状がない, etc.) something unusual; something wrong; mishap; accident; serious condition (e.g. after an injury); different situation; ED
• 市営 【しえい】 (n,adj-no) municipal management; (P); ED
• 歪む 【ゆがむ(P); いがむ; ひずむ】 (v5m,vi) to warp; to swerve; to deflect; to be crooked; to be distorted; to be bent; to incline; to slant; to be perverted; to be gross-grained; to get bent; to be strained; (P); ED
• 整理 【せいり】 (n,vs) (1) sorting; arrangement; organization; putting in order; adjustment; regulation; (2) liquidation; settlement; consolidation; clearance (e.g. debt); paying off; (3) retrenchment; curtailment; cutting down; disposal; (P); ED
• 駆け出し : 駆け出し; 駆出し; 駈け出し 【かけだし】 (n,adj-no) (1) novice; beginner; (n) (2) (See 駆け出す・かけだす) starting to run; running off; running away; 《verb stem》 駆け出す : 駆け出す; 駆出す; 駈け出す; 駈出す 【かけだす】 ; (v5s,vi) to run off; to break into a run; to start running; ED
• 放出 【ほうしゅつ】 (n,vs) release; emission; ejection; (P); ED
• 無造作 : 無造作(P); 無雑作 【むぞうさ】 (adj-na) (1) casual; off-hand; careless; easy-going; (2) artless; simple; (P); ED
• 郊外 【こうがい】 (n,adj-no) suburb; outskirts; (P); ED
• 鉄 : 金(P); 鉄(oK); 銀(oK); 銅(oK) 【かね(P); かな(金)(ok)】 (n) (1) (See お金) money; (2) metal; (P); : 黒金; 鉄 【くろがね】 ; (n) iron; : 鉄(P); 鐵(oK) 【てつ】 ; (n) (1) iron (Fe); (adj-no,n) (2) strong and hard (as iron); (n,n-suf,n-pref) (3) (abbr) (See 鉄道) railway; (n,n-pref) (4) (col) railway enthusiast; (P); ED

　爆弾　手渡す　電信　撃たれる　仕掛ける　冗談　　関連局　非難　繰り広げられる　湧き上がる

• 爆弾 【ばくだん(P); バクダン】 (n) (1) bomb; (2) (uk) alcohol with liquor added (esp. wine-based shochu highball, also beer with whiskey); (P); ED
• 手渡す 【てわたす】 (v5s,vt) to hand over; to surrender; (P); ED
• 電信 【でんしん】 (n,adj-no) telegraph; (P); ED
• Possible inflected verb or adjective: (passive)
  撃つ : 撃つ(P); 討つ(P); 射つ(iK) 【うつ】 (v5t) (1) (usu. 撃つ) to shoot (at); (2) to attack; to defeat; to destroy; to avenge; (P); ED
• 仕掛ける : 仕掛ける(P); 仕かける 【しかける】 (v1,vt) (1) to start; to begin; to commence; (2) to challenge; to pick (a fight); to make (war); (3) to set (traps); to plant (explosives); to lay (mines); (P); ED
• 冗談 : 冗談(P); 戯談; 串戯; 串戲 【じょうだん(P); ぎだん(戯談)(ok); げだん(戯談)(ok)】 (n,adj-no) (じょうだん is sometimes written 笑談) (See 笑談・しょうだん・2) jest; joke; funny story; (P); ED
• 関連 : 関連(P); 関聯 【かんれん】 (n,adj-no,vs,suf) relation; connection; relevance; (P); ED
• 局 【きょく; つぼね】 (きょく) (n,n-suf) channel (i.e. TV or radio); department; affair; situation; (つぼね) (n) court lady; lady-in-waiting; SP
• 非難 : 非難(P); 批難 【ひなん】 (n,vs,adj-na) criticism; blame; censure; attack; reproach; (P); ED
• 繰り広げ 《verb stem》 繰り広げる : 繰り広げる; 繰広げる; 繰り拡げる; 繰拡げる 【くりひろげる】 (v1,vt) to unfold; to unroll; to open; ED
• られる (aux-v,v1) (1) indicates passive voice (inc. the "suffering passive"); (2) indicates the potential form; (3) indicates spontaneous occurrence; (4) (hon) used as an honorific for others' actions; KD
• 湧き上がる : 沸き上がる; 湧き上がる; 湧き上る; わき上がる; 沸き上る; 涌き上る; 沸上がる 【わきあがる】 (v5r,vi) (1) (esp. 沸き上がる) to boil up; to come to the boil; to seethe; (2) to arise; to break out; (3) to get excited; to be in uproar; ED

　合図　壁際　紙幣　早朝　8　悠長　[JIS212]む　握り締める　情勢　興奮　信奉者　取材　始末　懐疑主義者

• 合図 : 合図(P); 相図 【あいず】 (n,vs) sign; signal; (P); ED
• 壁際 【かべぎわ】 (n,n-adv) close to the wall; alongside the wall; ED
• 紙幣 【しへい】 (n) paper money; notes; bills; (P); ED
• 早朝 【そうちょう】 (n-adv,n-t) early morning; (P); ED
• 悠長 : 悠長(P); 優長 【ゆうちょう】 (adj-na) (1) leisurely; slow; deliberate; easygoing; (2) (優長 only) conspicuous; exceeding; deliberate; (P); ED
• 握り締める : 握り締める(P); 握り緊める; 握りしめる 【にぎりしめる】 (v1,vt) to grasp tightly; (P); ED
• 情勢 : 情勢(P); 状勢 【じょうせい】 (n) state of things; state of affairs; condition; situation; circumstances; (P); ED
• 興奮 : 興奮(P); 昂奮; 亢奮 【こうふん】 (n,vs) excitement; stimulation; agitation; arousal; (P); ED
• 信奉者 【しんぽうしゃ】 (n) adherent; devotee; believer; ED
• 取材 【しゅざい】 (n,vs) (1) news coverage; collecting data (e.g. for an article); covering (something for media); (2) (See 取材相手・しゅざいあいて) interview; (P); ED
• 始末 : 始末(P); 仕末(iK) 【しまつ】 (n,vs) (1) management; dealing; settlement; (2) cleaning up; getting rid of; (3) economizing; economising; being thrifty; (n) (4) end result (usu. bad); (P); ED
• 懐疑主義者 【かいぎしゅぎしゃ】 (n) skeptic; sceptic; ED

　硝酸　跡形　溶け去る9　騒動　早速　開始　近郊　緊迫　炭坑夫　敢行　脅かし　憲法　練り歩く

• 硝酸 【しょうさん】 (n,adj-no) nitric acid; (P); ED
• 跡形 : 跡形; 跡方; 跡かた 【あとかた】 (n) trace; vestige; evidence; ED
• 溶け 《verb stem》 溶ける : 溶ける(P); 融ける; 熔ける; 鎔ける 【とける】 (v1,vi) (解ける is sometimes used also) to melt; to thaw; to fuse; to dissolve; (P); ED
• 去る : 去る(P); 避る 【さる】 (v5r,vi) (1) to leave; to go away; (2) to pass; to elapse; (3) to be distant; (v5r,vt) (4) to send away; to drive off; to divorce; (suf,v5r) (5) (after a -masu stem, esp. of a suru verb) ... completely; (adj-pn) (6) (去る only) (ant: 来る・きたる・1) last ... (e.g. "last April"); (P); ED
• 騒動 【そうどう】 (n,vs) (1) strife; riot; rebellion; turmoil; (2) (media) uproar; brouhaha; (public) outcry; (3) feud; tussle; quarrel; dispute; (P); ED
• 早速 【さっそく】 (adv) at once; immediately; without delay; promptly; (P); ED
• 開始 【かいし】 (n,vs) start; commencement; beginning; initiation; (P); ED
• 近郊 【きんこう】 (n) suburbs; outskirts; (P); ED
• 緊迫 【きんぱく】 (n,vs) tension; strain; (P); ED
• 炭坑夫塵肺 【たんこうふじんぱい】 (n) coal workers' pneumoconiosis; LS [Partial Match!]
• 敢行 【かんこう】 (n,vs) decisive action; (P); ED
• 脅かし 【おどかし】 (n) threat; 《verb stem》 脅かす : 脅かす(P); 嚇かす; 威かす 【おどかす】 ; (v5s,vt) (1) (See 脅かす・おびやかす) to threaten; to menace; (2) to startle; to surprise; (P); 《verb stem》 脅かす : 脅かす(P); 脅やかす(io); 劫かす 【おびやかす】 ; (v5s,vt) (1) (See 脅かす・おどかす) to intimidate; to scare; (2) to jeopardize; to endanger; to imperil; (P); ED
• 憲法 【けんぽう】 (n,adj-no) constitution; (P); ED
• 練り歩く : 練り歩く; 練歩く 【ねりあるく】 (v5k,vi) to parade; to march; ED

　　重症　威嚇　規模　概要　立て板に水　激しい　覆う　何のその　尊敬　徴兵　忌避者　革命

• 重症 【じゅうしょう】 (n,adj-no) (See 軽症) serious illness; (P); ED
• 威嚇 【いかく】 (n) (1) menace; threat; intimidation; (vs) (2) to threaten; to intimidate; (P); ED
• 規模 【きぼ】 (n) scale; scope; plan; structure; (P); ED
• 概要 【がいよう】 (n) outline; summary; overview; abridgment; synopsis; (P); ED
• 立て板に水 : 立て板に水; 立板に水 【たていたにみず】 (exp) (ant: 横板に雨垂れ) fluency; volubility; ED
• 激しい : 激しい(P); 劇しい; 烈しい 【はげしい】 (adj-i) (1) violent; furious; tempestuous; (2) extreme; intense; fierce; (3) fervent; vehement; (4) incessant; relentless; (5) (arch) precipitous; steep; (P); ED
• 覆う : 覆う(P); 被う; 掩う; 蔽う; 蓋う 【おおう】 (v5u,vt) to cover; to hide; to conceal; to wrap; to disguise; (P); ED
• 何のその : 何のその; 何の其の 【なんのその】 (exp) (uk) nothing special; no big deal; doesn't matter; ED
• 尊敬 【そんけい】 (n,vs) respect; esteem; reverence; honour; honor; (P); ED
• 徴兵 【ちょうへい】 (n,vs) conscription; recruitment; enlistment; (P); ED
• 忌避 【きひ】 (n,vs) (1) evasion; shirking; avoidance; (2) challenge; (taking) exception; (P); ED
• 者 【しゃ; もの】 (suff) person; -er; -ee; SP
• 革命 【かくめい】 (n,adj-no) (1) revolution; (2) (See 三革・2,辛酉) 58th year of the sexagenary cycle (in onmyou-dou); (P); ED

　夫人　廃絶　急先鋒。

• 夫人 【ふじん(P); ぶにん(ok); はしかし(ok)】 (n) (1) (ふじん, はしかし only) (hon) wife; Mrs; madam; (2) (ふじん only) (arch) wife of a nobleman (aristocrat, etc.); (3) (ふじん, ぶにん only) (arch) consort of the emperor; (P); ED
• 廃絶 【はいぜつ】 (n,vs) extinction; abolition; (P); ED
• 急先鋒 【きゅうせんぽう】 (n) van (of a movement); ED

Choose Your Best Marriage Now! 英語と日本語--結婚 第二部 今から素晴らしい結婚を選びましょう

日本語したに書いてあります。　　Scroll down for Japanese.

Last time we talked a little about how to make marriage last a long time.  Today, we will talk about one of the foundations of a long-lasting, successful, happy marriage. This foundation has two pillars.

1. How to find and choose a marriage partner. 

What kind of person do you want to marry?  Let me suggest a few qualities.  Most of the qualities we want in a marriage partner are the same as those we want in a good friend.

Honest

   Who wants a friend who is a liar?  How can you be friends with, or live with, a person who does not tell the truth ALL the time?

Hard-working

Whether you meet a person at work or school, notice how he or she works or studies. Do you want a lazy partner or friend? Remember, one of you can become sick and the other will have to work very hard to take care of the other and of course, the children.  You want a partner who will work hard at work and at home.  You do not want a lazy partner.

Kind, Patient, Loving

Remember, as you look around for a wife or husband, you are also looking for a mother or father for your children.  EVEN IF right now you think you will not have children, keep this in mind. You may change your mind in a few years.  You can love your kids now by finding them a wonderful mother or father.

Dependable, a promise-keeper

Unless you want a life filled with disappointment, you need to find a partner who is dependable.  If he says he will do something by a certain time, you can believe that it will be done.  AND, if she promises not to do something or to stop doing something, you can believe her. You want to marry someone who keeps promises.

Serious and Funny

The best marriages are filled with laughter, but you also need someone who knows when to be serious.  Just like a diet of sweets is not good for you, too much laughter can be a bad sign in a partner.  

VERY IMPORTANT  So far everything we have said is true of a good friend or colleague.  And you will need many good friends and colleagues.  But there is one relationship that is exclusive - - just between you and one other person.  One of God's best gifts to humans is the gift of sex.  But it also one of the most dangerous gifts.  In His great love, he has given us one rule for sex and put it deep into our hearts.  This rule?  Sex is to be shared ONLY with one person, and only inside the safety, trust, and love of marriage.  

Why?  Think a little.  Do you want a partner who has sex with other people after you are married?  Of course not. You want a person who has sex with only one person - you.   So before marriage, you wait for your special one, and after marriage you keep the trust and safety and love alive by protecting the love you share.

II. How to become a good marriage partner.

This part is easy to write, easy to read, easy to understand, but may be hard to do.  Simply, become the kind of person you are looking for.

Work at becoming Honest, Hard-working, Dependable, Kind, Patient, and Loving, and Serious and Funny!

And... remember to save sexual relations for the person you will marry.  This is the best way to love that person, your future children, and even yourself.

前回は、どのように結婚生活を長続きさせるかについて少しお話ししました。今日は、幸せな結婚生活をうまく長続きさせる基礎についてお話ししましょう。

この基礎には二本の支柱があります。

 １．   結婚相手をどのように選び、見つけるか。 あなたはどんな人と結婚がしたいですか。いくつかの特質を挙げてみましょう。結婚相手に望まれる特質のほとんどは、良い友人に望まれる特質と同じです。 

誠実さ：うそつきの友人がほしいと思う人は誰もいません。いつも真実を言うわけではない人と友達になったり、いっしょに生活したりすることはできないものです。 

働き者：あなたが出会う人が、職場であれ、学校であれ、その人がよく働くか、よく勉強するか見てください。あなたは怠け者の相手や友人を望みますか。あなたは病気になるかもしれないし、その時相手はもう一方の（もちろん子供たちも含まれます）面倒を見るために一生懸命に働かなければならなくなることを覚えておいてください。あなたは職場でも、家庭でも一生懸命に働く人を望みます。怠け者の相手はいらないでしょう。

親切、寛容、愛：　あなたが妻、または夫をさがすということは、あなたの子供たちの母親、父親をさがすことでもあるということを覚えてください。たとえ、もし今あなたが子供を持つつもりがないとしても、このことは心に止めておいてください。二～三年たてば、あなたの気持ちが変わるかもしれません。相手がすばらしい母親、または父親だとわかると、あなたは子供たちを愛してあげることができます。

 約束を守る、頼りになる人：あなたの生活が失望感で満たされたいと思うのでなければ、頼りになる相手を見つける必要があります。もしその人がある決まった時に何かをすると言うなら、あなたはそれがなされることを信じていいのです。さらに、その人が何かをしないとか、何かすることをやめるとか約束するなら、その人を信じていいのです。あなたは約束を守る人と結婚したいでしょう。

 真面目さとおもしろさ：最高の結婚生活は笑いに満ちています。しかし、あなたは真面目になるべき時を知っている人が必要です。お菓子ばかりの食生活があなたにとって良くないように、笑ってばかりいる相手は悪い兆候と言えます。

とても重要なこと：

これまで述べたことはすべて良い友達や同僚について言えることです。あなたには多くの良い友達、同僚が必要でしょう。しかし、一つだけこれに含まれない関係（あなたと相手との間で）があります。人間に与らえた神の最もすばらしい贈り物の中に、性という贈り物があります。しかし、同時にそれは最も危険な贈り物でもあるのです。神の偉大な愛の中で、彼は性に関して一つのルールをお与えになり、それを私たちの心の中に深く刻まれました。どんなルールでしょうか。性は、安全で信頼のおける愛ある結婚生活の中でのみ、また、たった一人の人と共有されるべきものです。

なぜでしょうか。少し考えてみてください。あなたはあなたと結婚してからも他の人と性的関係を持つ相手を望みますか。もちろん望まないでしょう。あなたはただ一人、つまりあなただけと性的関係を持つ人を望みます。ですから結婚するまで、あなたは大切な人のために待ちます。そして結婚後、信頼と安全と愛を生かしながら、あなたが共有する愛を守っていきます。 

２．   良い結婚相手となるためにはどのようにするか

このことについては、書いたり、読んだり、理解したりすることは簡単ですが、いざ実行するとなると容易ではありません。しかし、要するに、あなたが探している人のようになりなさいということなのです。

 誠実で、よく働き、頼りになって、親切、寛容、愛情を持ち、真面目で、おもしろい人になるように努めなさいということです。

 そして・・・あなたが結婚する人のために、性的関係を大事に取っておくことを忘れないでください。このことは相手のため、将来の子供たちのため、そしてあなた自身のために一番良い方法です。